Sometimes I think society views that if you are solo and unaccompanied then it’s a crisis and that something is wrong with you. I disagree as I feel having time for yourself is necessary. However saying that there’s has been a study conducted by the BBC in where thousands of people took part of the Loneliness Experiment that 40% of 16 to 24-year-olds who took part told us they often or very often feel lonely, compared with 27% of over 75s. From the study, people felt loneliness is having no one to talk to and feeling left out and people who felt lonely most often also had the most intense and the longest lasting feelings of loneliness.
Being alone and being lonely may have different meanings but they do add a similar value. To be honest living in London can be a lonely place to live in as I feel it’s difficult interacting with people. I remember one time a few years ago, I finished work late at night and was happy to leave. I was smiling at a lady but she replied why are you smiling? I was thinking to myself why is this happening? It’s a crime to smile a person in London otherwise they will be thinking you are mad. At times, you are against the world as we live in a society in where to be successful, you have to be selfish so some people will not have your best interests at heart so as result it can be hard to put your trust in people which can make a person feel alone.
On the other hand, being alone can be implemented as you would like to go on an event, watch a movie or gone on holiday and you want to bring your friends along but they are unable to come and as a result you no longer want to attend. You feel sad but you don’t need your FRIENDS in order to have a good time. You can enjoy your company as I feel you have to rely on yourself as people will let you down. Happiness comes from inside.
I am a person who likes time for myself and it’s so needed as I need to recharge my batteries and of course feel happy when I do my interests. This year I went to Greece with family and friends and I had a good time. However on my last full day at Greece I wanted to explore myself and even though I did explore, I got held back much to my frustration and from that moment, I felt in order to have a best experience, travelling abroad alone could be the best option. I have yet to do this but this is one of my plans to do in the future.
Being alone is not a bad thing. It can use as a time to reflect, gather your thoughts but also know about yourself and know what your purpose and goals are. So if you want to travel alone, you go do it. If you want to go to the gym alone, you go do it. If you want to attend a language class alone you go do it. If you want to achieve something, you go to go it alone as no one is going to do it apart from you. Doing your hobbies alone is worthwhile. Besides you can meet like mined people and form friendships. So even though it may not be a good experience loneliness and feel alone as you may feel sad, having time for yourself is something that could be useful. I have gone to sporting events and went to cinema alone and it felt good. It’s not a bad experience as people make out to be and don’t let them talk you out of it from what they are saying as they’re uncomfortable in doing it for themselves. It’s important to be self-assured so don’t hesitate and enjoy your own company. I will end with an insta post from Idris Elba in where he talks about trying something new and has points that reflect from what I was talking about. It’s a great post so enjoy!
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Du-rag thought.😎😎😎There is something about sitting in hair and makeup, stepping into a character, that makes me want to send simple advice out. The way man created computers to multi task and handle anything you ask it to do, is the same way you should approach your own brain, it is capable of learning new skills until the day you die. Try something new and don’t be discouraged if someone tells you to stay in your lane, Fluck that! (Yes FLUCK) I go through this torment a lot because I have a big imagination but I distance myself from anyone that can’t articulate why I shouldn’t try. 👊🏾👊🏾