Why Common’s Be album should be considered as one of the greatest Hip-Hop albums

So for the last couple of weeks, I have been listening to old school hip-hop music and I came across an album called Be from Common. I have listen to it before a couple of years ago and I thought this album is great but then I’d listen to the album again, I didn’t think it was great album. I believe it was a magnificent album. The album that was released in 2005 was critically-acclaimed in where it was nominated for 4 Grammy awards. It was listed as one of the best albums of that year. But 10 years from release and I think to myself why this album hasn’t been considered as one of the greatest hip-hop albums of all time? Yes they are albums that are better than Common’s Be in the last 20 years but Common has created a flawless, consistent, inspiring, well lyrical album and should be considered as one.

#common #be #hiphop #album #classic #rembarkable
#common #be #hiphop #album #classic #rembarkable

Each track from the 11 track album which lasts 42 minutes is well constructed, meaningful and most importantly engaging. The album starts with an intro which I think it’s one of the best hip-hop intros I ever heard as its beautiful played with strings with an uplifting bass. His opening lyrics start off with “I want to be as free as the spirits of those who left/I’m talking Malcolm, Coltrane, my man Yusef.”This gives you the optimism and confidence that this album is going to be one of his best albums of his career and indeed it was.

The next track “The Corner” is one of the hardest tracks he has done in where his lyrics is gripping as he tells the struggles of poor neighbourhoods in where says “We write songs about wrong cause it’s hard to see right.” His commentary throughout his song show the songs from the people living in the streets were their breakthrough from the streets although it wasn’t hopeful and the beat of the song make its gritty of a song that’s authentic. On ”Testify“, he delivers his flowing ability on an entertaining track of a story from the courtroom in where a wife is hoping is that her husband doesn’t go to jail but it comes with a twist.

What makes Be remarkable is the production that makes the album very listenable and the credit deserves goes to the late J Dilla and particularly Kanye West who majority produced the album in where he produced 9 of the 11 tracks. You could say it’s arguably one of his best works as a producer. One of his work includes “Go” in where Common fantasies about a female in a sexual way. It’s a glorious track from an album that has soulful hip-hop feel with elements of jazz.

But why should this album be considered as one of the greatest hip-hop albums of all time? Well not only it’s a classic as it’s unique and inspiring. Common is taking us in the journey in where he’s speaking directing at us and for us to make a stand and reach our goals despite our transgressions and struggles. “Real People which has a jazz feel is an example in the raps “So dreams we say out like speakerphone just to keep em on/It’s like a colored song that keep keepin on.” Although some of his lyrics in this song did cause some controversy when he raps “Black men walking with white girls on they arms/I be mad at ’em as if I know they moms/Told to go beyond the surface, a person’s a person/When we lessen our women, our condition seems to worsen.” He’s showing his dissatisfaction of interracial relationships and feels black women will be undermined further more as the black race is not valued in this society.

And from the final track “It’s Your World” in where in part 1, Common talks about his own struggles but also a woman he know who had dreams of being a singer but she’s now an prostitute in where he show his displeasure. It may be a low key song but the lyrics are priceless especially in part 2 when his father deliver his message of spoken word in where he states “Be invited, be long-living, be forgiving, be not forgetful.”

#common #rapper #underrated
#common #rapper #underrated

And that makes the album utter remarkable. It’s never dull thanks to his lyrics which are top notch. Each track has a message and he’s delivering his spoken word through rapping and that’s why some people think he’s a righteous man based on what he says. It’s like he’s a teacher and we are his pupils. He has raised the bar in his narratives and raised new heights when the album was released.

Despite being well received, I feel it’s an album that’s underrated and doesn’t get enough recognition. In the same year, Kanye West released Late Registration which may have overshadowed this album as it was a masterpiece in where it won numerous of awards and transformed his career for the better and also for the worst during the years.

However, Be is an album that should also get the same recognition. It deserves to be in the list of the greatest hip-hop albums of all time. Maybe not in the top 10 but definitely in the top 30. It’s consistent, flourished, groundbreaking and masterful.

So if you are frustrated of the current hip hop music scene right now listen to some old school hip hop and this album particularly. It will bring you back to the days in where hip hop was immaculate.

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The Misdeeds Of The Media

I never thought that Akon would be in my piece but you will see why he should be. I was scrolling through social media a few weeks ago and as I was looking, Akon appeared. Why? Because he was forming a Solar Academy to help bring electricity to 600 million people who are living in African countries. But instead I scroll down as like it was nothing but I saw it again on another social media platform so I had to check it out and do some research and read more about it. I thought to myself that’s noble of Akon to do this. Akon a singer/rapper/producer who had chart hit success on songs like Lonely, Smack That and Beautiful hopes the scheme from his company Akon Lighting Africa will help African countries harness the power of the sun — a seemingly foolproof plan given that the continent has 320 days of sunshine a year. Also the scheme aims to targets future African entrepreneurs, engineers and technicians. This will boost employment as the population of Africa is 70% under the ages of 35. Co-founder Samba Bathily said: “We have the sun and innovative technologies to bring electricity to homes and communities. We now need to consolidate African expertise and that is our objective.”

#akon #akonlightingafrica
#akon #akonlightingafrica

It’s this sort of news that deserves widespread attention as someone is doing something noble but will it? No. Bruce Jenner was the main focus elsewhere at the time. He was an Olympic athlete who was married to Kris Jenner in where her daughters are Kim, Kourtney & Khloe Kardashian. Jenner revealed at an interview this year he’s going to be a transgender woman and in few days into June, Caitlyn Jenner was released in a photo shoot for Vanity Fair that was later published in their magazine.

Caitlyn Jenner will be in the Guinness Books of Records as she shamed a record as the faster person to reach 1 million followers on Twitter. It took just four hours (and three minutes) to reach the milestone, usurping US president Barack Obama who broke the record just two weeks ago with his new @POTUS Twitter handle. Her photo tweet has been retweeted 240,000 times and I am expected that it will rise. I have looked on twitter on what people have been saying and it’s been positive. People have said that she looks hot, she looks stunning etc. In my opinion she looks good but to be honest I find this transgender thing odd and uninteresting. Yes she may have struggles through her life when she was a man but there’s stories that more important than this. The Akon story is an example but it’s ignored by the media and I find this baffling.

#caitlynjenner #transgender #transgenderwoman
#caitlynjenner #transgender

However I believe there are three reasons I think this story was ignored:

  1. Caitlyn Jenner is White. Akon is Black.
  2. The media feel the Akon story is not worthy to broadcast.
  3. Western world and America feel Africa is known for being poor and having diseases so they want to bring news that associates with it.

Another reason could be that the news wasn’t reported by the local or national press for it to be released but I believe the second point I made is genuine. The media are selective in what and what shouldn’t be published to the public and for a black man like Akon doing a great thing, the media for some reason find it uncomfortable. Rarely will you see ethnic minorities being appreciated by the media and if you do, it’s limited. Instead you see minorities being portrayed in a negative way. As Teun A. Van Dijk states from Power and the News Media.. “news on ethnic affairs remains focused
on a small selection of preferred topics, including immigration, crime, violence, cultural differences, and race relations.” From that, I feel ethnic minorties are only know for these topics and nothing else.

A month ago as I was on my way home from work, I saw a picture of black man at the front page of the London Evening Standard and I thought finally something positive. I was wrong. The article was about Ben Fiberesima who is referred by the standard as a gangster who launched a successful career as a male model and musician while on the run in Australia has been snared in an extraordinary police sting. Although I find the article intriguing, I was disappointed as once again black men are stereotyped as we are viewed as aggressive, violent and uneducated.

Media Tensions

A female friend and I had a discussion in where we talk about the Daily Mail. She mentioned to me about an article in where Muhammed is the most popular boy’s name in the UK in the year 2014. I’ve heard of this article as a person mention this on Question Time and I told my female friend I didn’t agree with the article. However I wanted to read the article myself so I did and what the Daily Mail says that according to Official National Of statistics (ONS) The article says “When all the variations are added together, including Muhammad, Mohammed and Mohammad, the name comes out top with 7,445 counts.”

Other newspapers follow suit thinking it was true but it was incorrect and The Guardian recognise that.The Guardian says it was from a sample based on a website called babycentre.co.uk for 56,157 members of the site who gave birth in 2014 and that the most popular boy’s name in the year of 2013 from ONS was Oliver. We will found later found this year if Muhammed is the most popular name in UK but I doubt it will be as it doesn’t make sense that that name will popular in the UK in where its predominately white. Yes it may be popular within the Muslim communities but not of parts of the UK. It was an error by the Daily Mail but they haven’t notified the readers about their error. Maybe they didn’t want to because they want to create headlines. As I said it was mentioned by someone on Question Time and I felt it was a negative impression on the storyline as that person may think Britain are losing their values. You may think it wasn’t the Daily Mail intentions but they would have notice that the Muslim communities are in under pressure because Muslims groups have killed people based on their faith e.g. Boko Haram, ISIS so they may think this is story is an opportunity for Muslims to be verbally abused and to raise racial tension.

The media can be influential as you can learn things and keep up to date on current affairs when watching the news/newspapers but the media can brainwash a lot of people as they exaggerated and mislead their stories and people will make assumptions on ethnic minorities/gender/countries/region. This can be known as manipulation by the media. Continuing from Power & The News Media.. “manipulation as a form of media power enactment is usually evaluated in negative terms, because mediated information is biased or concealed in such a way that the knowledge and beliefs of the audience are changed in a direction that is not necessarily in its best interest.” I feel this is established to create fear but also raise tension on variable groups.

Besides the press, music, films and TV programmes also provide stereotypes but now you see an increase of reality programmes on where they exploited people who are from a lower class or who have disabilities. Benefits Street is a documentary programme series which was distributed on Channel 4 in where it follows people who are on benefits but it has been heavy criticised as it provides a negative portrayed of benefits claimants. Residents who took part says Benefits Street TV show lied to us.

These are the misdeeds of the media from tabloid papers to broadcasters are willing to do these things just to get ratings. If I can provide some recommendations for the media it would be:

  1. Although some of the reports the media have delivered are credible as they have exposed corruption like the Fifa corruption, they have reported unnecessary news to demonise an issue e.g. mental health and instead of doing that, they should organise meetings to discuss why it is stigmatised and come up with solutions in how they can tackle the issue. A campaign might help.
  1. From Everybody A Little Bit Racist; An Explanation of Unconscious Racism it states “Stereotypes are translated into our social perceptions, or societal ‘attitudes’ toward an individual or group.” As the media conducted poor research on current topics you get biased, inaccurate information on a particular group and as a result people will stereotype. In this country, the major issue is immigration and apparently it’s all the eastern Europeans fault yet Immigrants From Eastern Europe Pay 12% More In Taxes Than They Receive In Benefits. Whenever you read/watch the news the journalists who report this are predominately white and as a result you only get one perspective. I feel increasing diversity within the media would be worthwhile as you will get different perspectives from BAME as well people who are from countries like Poland & Romania in where their countries are stereotyped. I believe it help change peoples’ assumptions.
  1. The late Nelson Mandela says this inspirational quote. “Education is the most powerful weapon you can use to change the world.” We live in a society where there’s a denial of racism e.g. Charleston, people are ignorant and generalising a specific group/race based on their experiences they had with an individual in where it’s increase by their friends and family and as a result stereotypes lead to polarized judgments.” [29] and if you are from poor backgrounds, you are not accepted. Although to combat issues like this can be very difficult, education is crucial is it gives you knowledge so more education and extensive knowledge is needed in where it’s access for all backgrounds so it can challenge stereotypes and reduce prejudice.

The media have a big part to play as they are influential and it can have an impact on the society. It would be nice if the media take some responsibility in what they are doing as l feel the media’s aim is to cause fear and raise tension in where it displays racial attitudes. But will they? Unlikely as good news is bad news but bad news is good news and unfortunately bad news is winning.


Power & The News Media In D. Paletz (Ed.), Political Communication and Action. (pp. 9-36). Cresskill, NJ: Hampton Press, 1995.

Everyone’s A Little Bit Racist: An Explaination of Unconscious Racism  Hughes, A, L 2014

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Fast & Furious 7 Review

There has been a considerable hype around this film. This was because of the unfortunate death of Paul Walker who died in a car crash in where he was halfway of the film’s completion and as a result there were doubts whether this film will be completed. But here I am writing a review on this so it did go ahead. When Justin Wan who directed horror films like Saw, Dead Sentence and The Conjuring was directing Fast & Furious 7, you may think to ponder how is Wan is going to use his experience in an action movie in where he’s been involved in horror movies? You may that the film was going to be disastrous of what’s been going on but he managed to pull it off and made a film that’s ludicrous and at times unfulfilling but a thrilling ride.

At the start of the film you see Jason Statham who plays Deckard Shaw an assassin who’s the brother of Owen Shaw (Luke Evans) attends to his brother at hospital after his misdeeds in Fast & Furious 6. He vows revenge and as he leaves you see in the background, SWAT members lay around in the floor and the hospital in ruins and later on he has a remarkable altercation with Hobbs (Dwayne Johnson), you can sense the picture in how the film is going to be planted out.

In the way Fast & Furious 7 is structured, Fast & Furious 4-6 are prequels as this film is a sequel from the third film of the franchise The Fast And Furious Tokyo Drift as it follows the events in where at the end of the film Han (Sung Kang) is killed and where we see in this film that Statham was behind it so he can send out a message to Dominic Toretto (Van Diesel) and his crew/family Brian O’Connor (Paul Walker), his wife Mia (Jordana Brewster), Letty (Michelle Rodriguez), Roman, (Tyrese Gibson) and Tej (Chris ‘Ludacris’ Bridges) who he feels they are responsible of what happened to his brother. They feel they are in danger in where they hope there will be no danger and instead have a peaceful life.

#fastandfurious #fastandfurious7 #F&F7 #franchise
#fastandfurious7 #F&F7 #franchise

Of all the films in this franchise which began in 2001, this film raises the bar in terms of story, the character development and the action scenes. As mentioned previously Deckard Shaw (Statham) is out for blood in where Diesel and his crew are his targets but when Dom retrieves Han’s body in Tokyo so a funeral can be held in LA, during the service, Roman said to Brian “Please no more funerals.”, I felt this movie is not just going to be an action movie but an action movie with some emotion as the characters in the film realise they don’t want to lose another one from their extended family so despite being their usual self, you could see a different side from them especially Toretto as he remises the good times he has with Letty and how he wants to have that back. This is welcoming and the story and the development of the characters are strong.

For Toretto, he needs to get rid of Shaw but as he has a one to one with him, he gets interrupted by Frank Petty (Kurt Russell) who will help him track Shaw if he cooperates with him and his team to retrieve a tracking device called God’s Eye which was created by Ramsey (Nathalie Emmanuel) and as I mentioned the film raises the bar, it does especially in the action scenes. You will see Troetto and his crew go to places like Azerbaijan, Dominican Republic, Abu Dubai and LA in where you see the team parachute their cars from a boarding plane, O’Connor running from the bus as it’s about to side off from a cliff, and a car crashes from one building to another. Although the action can be intense, thrilling and joyous, these spectacles can be ludicrous and daft. But despite that and alongside the story and the character development, it works extremely well in the first two periods of the film.

However scripts for the story had to be rewritten unfortunately after Paul Walker’s death and you can notice there was hiccups as the film began to fall flat as the film reaches its conclusion. Dwayne Johnson’s character is limited for the majority of the film which is a shame until the end in where he fires machine gun across the helicopter but you do question whether he was needed in this film at all as he had a minor role. Diesel and Statham showdowns particularly in the car park in where it lasts around 15 minutes are uneventful and dull. And Jakande (Djimon Hounsou) who kidnapped Ramsey in order to use God Eye to use it for his evil works forms an alliance with Shaw to target Toretto and his crew but there’s no back story between the pair. Although this may be a minor issue, it does leave with unanswered answers.

#paulwalker #forpaul
#paulwalker #forpaul

But this film is for Paul Walker in where his voice and face were CGI and his brothers Caleb and Cody completed his remaining scenes as body doubles and a result we see Walker on form. And there’s a splendid fitting tribute for him and you begin to understand why Toretto is a family man as during the film he says “I have no friends. I got family.” A line I feel that’s unforgettable.

F&F7 is a film that’s set new heights and you get an outrageous, enjoyable and satisfying film. You could say it’s the strongest instalment in the series but it has missed opportunities to be a truly, remarkable film and that’s disappointing. A film in the series I feel that was class was Fast Five. I feel that film actually made the franchise tick as the previous 4 films weren’t great although I haven’t watched the 3rd film. It’s hard to see how an 8th film could be developed after a film like this in a franchise in where should have ended years ago but I wouldn’t be surprised if there was one.

Rating 3/5

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Once The Musical Review

When I heard that Once The Musical was coming to the West End in London, I was well excited. I was looking forward to see how a film adaption is transferred to a musical adaption. It’s a musical that’s been out since April 2013 in London and after months and months of wanting to see it, I’ve finally got to see it in the theatre this month.

For those who know little about this, Once The Musical is a based on an 2007 Irish film of the same name (which is brilliant), and it’s about an Irish guy who’s a busker inspiring to be a musician, who later meets a Czech girl in a street who was impressed with his singing who’s also a musician and a pianist and they have a bond over their love of music through songs. It was a film that was successful as it was highly favourable in the US and it won an Oscar for Best Original Song for the song “Falling Slowly.” For this musical adaptation, written for stage by playwright Edna Walsh and directed by John Tiffany, offers a simple but moving and effective musical.

#ronankeating #once #musical
#ronankeating #once #musical

When Ronan Keating was announced as Guy for the musical from November 2014, I think it would be an interesting role for him to take as musicians who decided to be actors, sometimes don’t perform to the acting standard. For his acting role in the West End, Keating delivers a fine, inspiring performance and that would surprise a few people. He shows vulnerability when a man is washed up in bar before Girl (Jill Winternitz) pops up in where she’s approvals his singing and it gives him some hope. A few minutes into meeting, there’s a hilarious moment between the pair in where a vacuum cleaner is involved.

Jill Winternitz’s performance as Girl is quirky and impressive and as a result she outshines as Keating in most parts which leads him to be a passenger and with that you see his vulnerability. After all, this is his first West End role. However, vulnerability can be a good thing for Keating as he displays this when he is singing and he sings effortlessly especially in the scene, in where himself, Wintermitz and the supporting cast are outstanding when singing to someone who’s in the music business.

And there’s a mention of the supporting cast as when you at a theatre, you normally see the orchestra playing the music for the cast so it was unusual and a surprise when the actors are also musicians as they play the piano, guitars, drums, violins you name it and it was wonderfully played.

#once #music #musical #actors #musicians
#once #music #musical #actors #musicians

Once is not a traditional love story. It’s a love story in where people have a connection over their love for music and you can see it from the stage. However despite great performances from Keating and Winternitz, the connection is not efficient between the pair. In the original film, you can feel the spark and chemistry between Hansard and Irglova and it was special and from the musical, it’s not recuperated.

But it’s only a small criticism as the musical makes up for it with funny and hilarious moments as mention before. Tim Prottery-Jones and David Mehmet provide the biggest laughs in their roles and unlike the original film, it’s refreshing to have this in the musical. And of course the music is memorising and uplifting. It’s something in where it’s deserved to be applauded.

It’s a heart-warming, captivating, delightful musical in where you should see this more than once. If you watched it and you were unsure, see it again. It will change your view but make sure you see it before it ends on 21 March. You may regret it.

Rating 8/10

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2015: The Year You Make It Count

Hello guys and happy new year.

New Year = New Beginnings and for that New Year’s Resolutions. Unfortunately, people don’t stick it to it. We say I am going to this and that in that year and the year before but it doesn’t happen. That’s why below you get this comment.

#goals goalsthatwedidntaccomplish #reality
#goals #goalsthatwedidntaccomplish

But by not sticking to your new year’s resolutions, doesn’t mean that you should stop pressing your goals and ambitions. I see as the new year begins, it’s time to look back in the previous year and reflect on things that you have achieve, what made you smile, what made you feel sad, things in where you have made mistakes and also look back on things that you want to achieve but not yet fulfil that target. That’s what each new year brings. It gives you the opportunity to challenge yourself and fulfil your goals and ambitions. Write down your hopes and dreams from a notepad and try making it happen. Whatever your goals may be, this year is the year you for to start progressing. And with that you need the desire, the determination and the motivation to succeed.

I believe an important step for to reach your goals is to surround yourself with good people who are ambitious, who know what they want in life like yourself, who can encourage you and who are full of positivity. Sometimes you need that extra push for you to get through the hurdle. However, if you feel you not getting that from people who dampen your spirits, then I think you need to cut all ties with them. Sometimes when people are being negative and apprehensive towards you, you feel like whether you done something wrong to them and it make you feel like crap. But then you realise it’s them that has the problem and not you. I realise sometimes people are constantly being negative towards you as they are insecure about themselves. I feel something has happened in their life which is why they are the person they are now or they are worried that your life is going somewhere and theirs are not. So don’t allow them to interfere in your plans and make them feel bad about yourself. In order to grow, you need to let go of bad rubbish. That’s what I am going to do and so should you.

I am excited of the year of 2015. I have many goals I want to achieve this year. I won’t reveal all but my goals of 2015 is to expand my blogging page, get more views and of course write more blogs, improve my Spanish so I can be more fluent, go on a few holidays to explore different cultures and relax of course and something I’ve been wanting for years which is to have a girlfriend which will hopefully become my wife in the next few years.

Will my plans become a reality this year? I really hope so but if it doesn’t happen, then it wasn’t meant to be as from a Christian perspective, I believe the Lord Jesus Christ may have plans for me that may be even better than the plans I have right now. From Jeremiah 29:11 it says “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” I feel this verse is a encourage verse for Christians alike who may feel dishearten in why their plans is not succeeding. He has plans for all of you so all you got to do is trust in him.

Hopefully I will post a blog at the end of the year to see whether I have fulfilled my goals. But for everyone who have goals this year… only you and not the influence of others can achieve your goals. Believe in yourself, press towards your goals and make it count. Good luck in the year and make it the best yet.

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Gone Girl Review

Hello guys. One of the reasons I wanted to blog was to write a film review. I was thinking when is this going to happen?? But then I watch Gone Girl that was released in October in where I watched it last month and I think to myself, I have to write a review on this as I had a lot to say on this so here’s my film review on Gone Girl.

“Everyone told us and told us – marriage is hard work. Not for me and Nick.” That’s what Amy Elliott- Dunne (Rosamund Pike) says in her diary in where she’s happy in love but into their five year wedding anniversary, she’s the talk of the town as she’s disappeared and it’s not good news for her husband Nick Dunne. (Ben Affleck)

This film is based on the same name from the 2012 thriller novel by Gillian Flynn. Normally when screenwriters write an adaptation of a novel, they don’t fulfil the standards of the adaptation. This is because the screenwriters are not the people who have written the novel but for this screenplay, it’s written by Gillian Flynn and it’s refreshing to hear as it’s a faithful adaption to the book which is transformed by director David Fincher to a film in where it’s intriguing, edge of your seat thriller.

into the beginning of the film, we see Nick entering his house to found that his wife is nowhere to seen but it becomes an murder investigation as there’s been traces of blood which has been cleaned up from the kitchen and with the interrogation from Detective Rhonda Boney (Kim Dickens) who says to Nick “You look laid back.” on a case in where’s his wife is missing or even far worse and she suspects whether there’s more than meets the eye as does her sidekick Jim Gilpin (Patrick Fugit).

It’s a film that Fincher would be interested in. It’s a mystery thriller which has dark elements and with his 10th film feature, we see what have been accustomed to in his previous films in where he grips the audience and pushes the boundaries. It has elements of chillness from Se7en and the ferocious of the classic Fight Club.


The film constricts two periods. There’s the present, in where the disappearance of Amy Dunne has gone headline news and with more revelations, the pressure has got into Nick Dunne, whereas in the past, we see the digs into their marriage. We see that they’re happily in love into the first years of marriage but problems arises as the economy dipped and it took its toil as they both lost their jobs and have to move location. These periods happen two-thirds of the film and it balances off very well, similar to his previous film, The Social Network and Fincher deserves credit for that.

As the film progress in the middle, Gone Girl is not based on the disappearance of a woman in where the husband is the prime suspect; it revolves the marriage between two people in where we see the good and the bad (loads of it) and how it establishes. This leads to turmoil and their perception for one another has changed and where you hear the vows in marriage, for better for worse, for sickness and in health, their marriage gets worse each day and then transformed in a dark, twisted way.

And as a result, the fate and whereabouts of Amy is discovered towards the end of the middle in the film and alongside with great performances from the cast all across as the film reach its conclusion.

#didhekillhiswife #suspect #gonegirl
#didhekillhiswife #suspect #gonegirl

Affleck who’s dysfunctional as the husband in where he’s public enemy no.1 thanks to the misconceptions from the media, deliveries a terrific, convincing performance. In her movie debut, Carrie Coon plays Nick’s twin sister and she wonderfully displays an emotional and believable performance when Fincher playfully turns the heat on Nick. As a result, he hires Tanner Bolt (Tyler Perry) as his attorney and he produces a comic but fine performance. And there’s Rosumand Pike who delivers her best performance to date. She must be craving for a role. She credited as “Amazing Amy” from her parents who led her to write books based on that title but now we see her vulnerability. But this actually strikes her and transforms her from vulnerability to mysterious to dangerous. Amy has that venom which has lifted her and made her more fascinating but also alarming as the music starts to build up whenever she’s in town and it’s a performance in where you could see her picking up some awards. This arousing display attracted Desi Collins (Nick Patrick Harris) who plays her ex-lover. Unfortunate for him and without revealing, it ends badly.

You may think at the start this a rom-com date movie but with David Fincher, he’s made a David Fincher movie in where its unnerving and unsettling and when Bolt (Perry) says to Nick (Affleck) “You are the most f***ed couple I have come across.”, this reflects on the film itself.

The ending may not be intriguing as it falls flat which is a shame but the twists and turns in this film alongside with the WTF moments are memorable. It’s bold, shocking yet a well thought engaging film which may become the talked about film of the year. If you are thinking of getting married, watch this movie first before going down the aisle.

Rating 7.5/10

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Don’t Discriminate Mental Health


Hey guys, it’s been a while since I have a written a blog and was thinking what should I write next and then in August, I hear the saddened news that Robin Williams who embrace my childhood has died and what makes it more sad that the cause of death was suicide which relates to depression and I feel I should talk about this as it’s an important subject matter that needs to be addressed.

Stigma And Mental Illness is Not A Good Combination

Every day in our lives we have days that are up and downs. It’s natural in where you feel miserable and when it arises, we seek help from our friends and family and they are willing to help. But when the problem is a mental illness issue, they are unwilling to help. People are dismissive about this issue. Why? Because they feel it’s not an important issue. Some people will think it’s part of life and after a few days/weeks they will get over it. But what I believe is the main reason is that people don’t have an understanding of mental illness. Maybe for depression it’s not physical so you can’t see that the person is suffering. However people are ignorant on this. Instead we say to a person who is suffering from depression to “Pull yourself together and take a walk and you will be fine.” and that’s how to help a person who’s depressed. That’s incorrect. Instead of encouraging and supporting the person, the person will become more isolated, disheartened and with that the illness may worsen.

To me it’s a major disappointment that there hasn’t been enough investment for mental health research. According to Research Mental Health, Mental illness causes 15 per cent of the country’s disease burden but receives just 5 per cent of total health research spending. Although £74m is spent on researching mental health the money mostly goes to government agencies. For cancer, received 27% of research funding and you can tell there’s more awareness as you see campaigns and advertisements enlighten the issue. But for mental health you don’t see a lot. Cancer and mental health should be given equal treatment as they both have an impact on a person’s life.

If there’s more awareness and research put into place for mental health, then people will have an understanding in how serious the issue is, be able to help the people in need and reduce prejudice and stigma. Since the death of Robin Williams, I have seen people reactions from social media regarding this and I am outraged. I hear people say they have no sympathy for a person who committing suicide, it’s a selfish act and why take your own life in where you have years ahead of you. Depression affects people in every age.

A person who has depression will feel worthlessness, have low self-esteem and not enjoying things they find pleasurable. Robin Williams unfortunately was in a vulnerable way because of the issues he had and felt suicide it’s the only option as he felt rejected. It gets me angry when a person criticises someone who has depression. It’s not their fault to feel this way. And as I mentioned before there’s a lack of understanding of the issue. It’s a serious illness yet people regard this as minor issue.

Depression Is A Dangerous Illness But It Can Be Beatable

You may be thinking why this subject matter is important to me and why I get a bit sensitive on this? Because unfortunately, I suffered from depression a few years back. I don’t want to go into too much detail but when I had it, I was in a dark lonely place. I felt unworthy, isolated and I cried out for help as I seek comfort from others. It was a battle for me and I was thinking whether this is ever going to end but by the grace of God and with the help from my friends, I eventually got through it. In a way, it’s good this has happened to me as it has changed my perspective in my life. I am not saying it’s good to have depression far from it as it’s one of the worst experiences you will ever have. What I am saying is that it has made me a stronger person but most importantly to be happy and to be positive around others. In order to have a better health, being around with others is a step in escaping depression as you feel that you are valued when people spend time with you. It certainly helped me and for people who have this illness, it is beatable and with time and care from others you can get it through it. Don’t lose hope. That’s why since I overcome this, I want to be someone’s motivator, encourager and be inspiring to others. I want to display a positive outlook and I believe depression has made me to feel this way. Why be sad when you can happy? Of course you can’t be happy all the time but whenever I have difficult situations, I mostly make an attempt to remain happy.

Statistics and Attitudes Towards Mental Health

#standupandtalk #mentalhealth #illness #awareness
#standupandtalk #mentalhealth #illness #awareness

As this is a sensitive issue, people may find this uncomfortable so instead of talking about it, they reject the issue. Well it needs to be addressed so people can understand that having mental health illness such as post-traumatic stress disorder, bipolar disorder and of course depression are serious illness. And because I want to raise awareness, I’m going to mention some facts and statistics. 1 in 4 people in the UK will experience a mental health problem in their lifetime in where depression is the most common health problem and with a population of over 60 million people, that’s an estimate of around 15 million people. According to sources from Young Minds nearly 800,000 children and young people have suffered from severe depression. With depression, people will also experience anxiety and it can make the illness worse.

Surveys conducted that are founded by Mental Health Foundation that Women and younger people are more likely to say that anxiety has impacted on their lives. Also women and young adults who are aged 20–29 are the most likely to seek help for anxiety from their GP. The causes of having an illness such as depression and anxiety is relationship breakdowns, overthinking and life events that have trigger their lives such as bereavement. Unemployment is an example in where people who are unemployed have significantly higher anxiety levels than those in employment. With that, you get a strong feeling of guilt, worthlessness, lack of concentration, uninterested of life and suicidal thoughts. That the symptoms of someone who’s depressed.

However as I mention at the beginning that mental health issues are stigmatised. If a person tells someone they are depressed, people may ridicule it and laugh it off. That’s why people are suffering in silence as they afraid to speak up and if they do they’re stereotyped. A survey questionnaire was conducted by the NHS in 2011 in where 1,741 adults took part gave their attitudes to mental illness and 21% of them agree that ‘Anyone with a history of mental problems should be excluded from taking public office’ and ‘As soon as a person shows signs of mental disturbance, he should be hospitalized’ In the media, there’s a myth that people with mental health problems are aggressive, violent and crazy and as the media can be so influential, people will believe it.

However, statistics will prove otherwise. From a report from Mind called. At risk yet dismissed, People with SMI were five times more likely to be a victim of assault, and three times more likely to be a victim of assault. They are targeted as the perpetrator knows the victim has mental health problems and as a result they exploited them. And finally when a person who has a mental illness and has been a victim, when it’s reported to the police, instead of supporting them, they neglected them and one who participated in this research says “They assume I’m violent. They see their job as protecting the public from schizophrenics, they do not see their job as protecting schizophrenics from the public.” It was unpleasant when reading these findings as it shows the difficulties people with mental health have faced. However it’s good that these findings were conducted so people like me can view it and share to the readers of this blog.

Instead Of Dismissing The Illness, Aware The Illness

#supportmentalhealth #endstigma
#supportmentalhealth #endstigma

To conclude, mental health is an issue that should be more publicise but instead it’s been dismissed. It’s deemed not important despite being a health problem and as a result, people have no understanding of it and a person who has a mental illness will get criticise for talking about it.

A quote from the late Robin Williams says “No matter what people tell you, words and ideas can change the world.” He’s correct. Words are a very important aspect for a human being. The words we say can be influential, make someone fall in love with us or for someone to dislike us. So instead of using words that are discouraging, use encouraging words as it would be help a person who’s has a mental health condition. It will make the person feel they are worthy and feel that their life is something that is cherished as they’re in a vulnerable state. Also it’s important to keep regular contact with that person as it make them feel better and it will show that you care. And when you contact that person, communication is the key. All the person wants is for someone to listen, understand, not prejudice and show them love as love is the most important thing a person can gave. It’s pretty straightforward yet people don’t know what to do when this situation arises.

That’s why I believe the government should invest more of mental health research so doctors, counsellors etc. can have an understanding of it. Also they should be training courses for the public so they can learn more about it and use it to help someone they know who’s batting with this condition. Depression, anxiety and bipolar disorder are mental illnesses and should have the same treatment as people who have cancer as they could die from this. Unfortunately you get the press write detail information in how a person committed suicide due to mental illness just to sell papers despite receiving guidelines prior from organisation called Samaritans that it could be copied to someone who’s has similar circumstances. The press did it to Robin Williams and it was unacceptable.

#robinwilliams #press #unnecessary
#robinwilliams #press #unnecessary
#robinwilliams #press #wrong
#robinwilliams #press #wrong

Although it’s improving slightly, the stigma of mental illness remains and it’s going to take a while for it to decrease.



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This was updated on 11/06/2015

Trending Perfection Celebrities


Hello everyone. This subject matter is something that has been in my mind for a while and I feel it’s time to talk. It’s something that I am going to be blunt so people may disagree. In life, we seek someone to inspire us, to motivate us and to help us be a better person. This can be from our families, or someone we know. However, there are people that we adore, look up to and want to be like them and those people are celebrities. It’s a growing trend that’s has been increasing for many years and it’s a trend that’s not going to decline. They come from a range of people musicians, movie stars, journalists, models and athletes.

Celebrities Are Dreamy

#celebrities #dreamy #goregous
#celebrities #dreamy #goregous

So why do we admire them? By listening to their music, seeing them in films, TV and watching sports but when we see them, we see them in a different light. We think they are super talented and for that moment, we want to know more about them. We want to know who they are and what makes them tick. We feel we have a connection towards them. For example you are listening to a musician’s song and you are drawn with their lyrics but also their singing ability. You find it incredible and memorising.

As the media shows these celebrities on a regular basis we are more fascinated by them and we feel they are different to any kind of human being. We portray them as perfect celebrities as they have received more recognition and with that they are more famous. We idolised them and we are very impressed of their achievements and we regard them as role models. We follow their style, their body image and believe in what they say. Celebrities these days can be very influential.

We Love celebrities So Much That We worshipped Them

An example of a celebrity who is influential is Beyoncé Knowles. She is admired by many people in the world especially young women. Last month she was listed on Time Magazine as one of 100 influential people in the world. Sheryl Sandberg a Facebook Executive comments how she makes an impact on women. She says “She raises her voice both on and off stage to urge women to be independent and lead.” She also says “Her secret: hard work, honesty and authenticity.“ Beyoncé’s performances in shows come with work ethic which is outstanding and young women want to follow her attributes, be like her and follow her lifestyle. People see her as an idol yet people have taken this to extreme measures. According to reports in America, organisers have created a church in Atlanta called The National Church Of Bey in where people can practice the religion “Beysim.” It is to believe they gather every Sunday to sing her songs just like sermons coming from the bible. They even have plans to build a temple in honour of Beyoncé. This could be false but I find this absolutely ridiculous that people want to worship Beyoncé. Yes she’s a very talented person but does she deserved to be worshipped absolutely not!

Beyonce leads Time’s 100 most influential people

A religion to worship Beyonce?

Commerical of The National Church Of Bey

Another example is Justin Bieber a singer but because he has strong fan base from young females they worship him. This is one of the reasons why the name beliebers was formed so they can follow him in social networking websites such as Twitter in where he was the most followed person in June last year with 40m. They love him so they will do anything to help him. In January last year #cutforbieber was a twitter trend in where fans self-harm themselves to stop Bieber from smoking weed. It was utterly disturbing as fans did this for him.

Cut for Bieber

The media should be blamed for this as they promote celebs like they should be treated like royalty because of how great they are. And with that, the more we like celebs, the more we want follow the trend of that particularly celebrity.

Expectations Within Relationships

Well live in a world in where we are looking for a superman/superwoman. They don’t exist but thanks to celebs we think they do exist and as a result, relationships fall apart because of high expectations. We are easily influenced by the media and what we see from celebrities’ relationships, we feel it’s normal for us to have it in our relationships. We also intrigued by celebrities many talents and we find them more attractive. Whatever we like from the celebrity, we want a potential partner to have those qualities. Although it can be difficult to find that in a person, some people are willing to wait for it. They are willing to find someone who looks like and dance like Chris Brown, sing like Adele or have the body of Trey Songz. They won’t even consider someone who doesn’t have those attributes as they’re obsessed with their favourite celebrities and that is appalling. They are going to be single for years if they look for someone that is unrealistic.


As I mentioned earlier, Beyoncé is a person who has many admirers who want to follow her lifestyle. She is married to rapper Jay-Z since 2008 and their marriage has been in the spotlight. They are listed as a power couple based on their music activity and as they are a power couple, people view their relationship and believe it’s perfect in the way they show their love for one another. Kim Kardashian, a popular celebrity is engaged to rapper Kanye West. Recently they done a photo shoot for Vogue in where they were photos of them and their child. The pictures look great but for people will look at this and say “This is lovely. They look so prefect together. I wish I can have a relationship like this.”

#vogue #kimye
#vogue #kimye

And then you get the trend “Relationships Like this”. When I see this trend, it makes me think what they have seen, they view it as a perfect relationship and those celebrity couples I’ve mention are examples. When a young woman sees this, they would feel a guy should treat them like royalty and I feel it puts us guys’ much pressure in relationships. Some women would be comparing their favourite celebrities relationships to their own. They will set high standards and if they feel their boyfriend is not fulfilling to their standards of their ideal celebrity relationship, then they will tell them to either step up or you’re dumped. You may think that’s not the case but I see in social media in where girls upload a picture after picture of Beyoncé and Jay- Z’s performance at the Grammys and talked about how this is real love and they wished a guy can show all this affection.

#love #performance #grammys
#love #performance #grammys

It’s alarming for guys as what we do may not be enough for the ladies. However, girls come in for tremendous pressure from guys as they want a girl not only to have a good figure but to have big boobs, be supportive, be good in bed and to be attractive 24/7.

#verybeautiful #stunning

Michelle Keegan is someone who’s very beautiful but girls will feel self-conscious because of how she looks and as she’s an ideal woman for some guys, they feel pressured to look like her in order to receive attention from guys. The magazines don’t help either as you see celebs looking glamorous. Young girls today are in close scrutiny thanks to the media as to be socially accepted you have to look perfect. I remember years back when Rihanna dyed her hair red and it became a phenomenal as loads of girls were following her trend but now she’s a dresses up like a slut but as she liked by young girls they follow her dress sense too and it’s a shame.

Celebrities Are Normal Just Like Us

To round off, we love celebrities because of what do they do and we find it impressive. We follow them so they can part of our lives and to be associated with them in terms in how we live our lifestyle. We are inspired to be like them but also we drawn to them which can be obsessive as it’s like a fashion trend. We analyse celebs relationships in where it influences ours as we desire the perfect relationship but we shouldn’t compare our relationships to theirs as they have complete different lifestyles than ours. We should make our expectations realistic when meeting a potential partner.

#stylish #respectable
#stylish #respectable

What really annoys me is when people look at a celebrity and say that he/she is perfect. THEY ARE NOT PERFECT!! I see people saying this on social media and I am thinking why are you saying this? I believe they are saying this based on looks alone but when you say they are perfect, you are implying that everything about them is perfect in terms of their personality and the way they carried themselves. It’s like they have no faults whatsoever but they all have faults. They haven’t been to a surgeon in where they have been injected to have superhuman abilities. Yes they have amazing talents that we would like to have but they are normal human beings just like us who make mistakes. Chris Brown and Justin Bieber are examples who have made mistakes as they have got into trouble with the law yet fans still call them perfect in every way and defend them for their wrongdoing. That is utter nonsense.

If people want to mention someone who’s perfect then there’s one person who love us unconditionally, who died for our sins so we can have a better life and that person name is Jesus Christ. He deserves all the glory and all the praise. However, there are people who are not religious and be thinking there’s no God and if there is a God why is he letting all these bad things happening? Well that’s a debate for another time maybe…..

We shouldn’t brand celebs as royalties as we haven’t met them in real life but as the media can be so influential, we see them in a different light. Will this trend of idolising celebs decrease? Very unlikely. I believe more people are going to idolise celebrities as it’s a fashion trend. I believe the media should stop portraying celebrities as perfect. It would make life a lot of easier and it stop us from trying  or looking for something that is non-existent a perfect person.

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David Moyes: From The Chosen One to The Sacked One

New Era


It was always going to be a difficult job for David Moyes to take over from manager Sir Alex Ferguson at Manchester Utd in where he produced a major transformation of the club within the 26 years he was there. He won 38 trophies which included 13 Premier League titles and 2 Champions League titles in his campaign and he’s regarded to be one of the best or arguably the best manager of all the time. His work ethic, determination and the hunger for success was remarkable and forever will be a legend with the united faithful.

Moyes was regarded as the chosen one as Sir Alex recommended him to the board in where he was appointed quickly when Ferguson announced his retirement. It seems to be as a safe choice for the board to make as Ferguson felt Moyes has similar attributes and personality as him and also he is Scottish. It was a start of a new era as Moyes was handed a six year contract which was a statement from the club that they want the same longevity and stability as they had with Sir Alex. However, people questioned the appointment. Despite 11 years of being at Everton in when Moyes was successful in his job, he didn’t guide them to win a trophy. He didn’t have the experience in working for a big club and he lacked european experience although he did guided Everton to qualifying rounds of the Champions League. Despite questions of his credibility, Moyes was given the opportunity and it seems to be working as he had a great start in the first Premier League as Man Utd Manager as they won 4-1 against Swansea.

A Disastrous Transfer Window

When you at a big club, you need to spend well in the transfer window in order to outgun your rivals. Manchester Utd had been successful in doing this but for this summer window, it didn’t happen. Moyes tried to sign star players like Fabregas and Thiago from Barcelona but it failed as Fabregas wanted to stay and Thiago went to Bayern Munich. Moyes made an effort to sign his previous players from Everton, Baines and Felliani for a joint bid of £30m but Everton rejected and calling it derisory. At the end, Fellinai joined at the club at deadline day with a fee of £27.5m but eyebrows were raised as Felliani had a clause in his contract that he can leave for £23.5m but that ended in July. United could have got Felliani for a lower fee but they end up spending more and as they got him in the last day of the transfer window was it really the player they wanted? There were potential targets to get Ander Herrera and Fabio Conceratro from Athletic Bilbao and Real Madrid but it wasn’t successful either. It was a disastrous transfer window and questions need to be asked in whether Moyes had the support from the club to pursue his targets or whether Executive Vice chairman Ed Woodward who replaced David Gill (A huge loss for United) didn’t fulfil his duties in the transfer window. It was an embarrassment for the club in where they need to be better in the next summer transfer window.

Missed Opportunities = Misfortunes

The lack of opportunities of the transfer window came back to haunt the club as they suffered back to back Premier Leagues defeats to their local rivals Manchester City in where they lost 4-1 and 2-1 to West Brom in September. There wasn’t a major crisis but the atmosphere at the club seems bleak. In December, they lost suffered back to back defeats again but this time at home in where they lost 1-0 to Everton and Newcastle. It was the first time since 2001/02 season in where they lost 2 games in a row at Old Trafford. At this moment, questions were being asked in whether Moyes is the right man for this job and if he can build up the team. But then there was a period in where things were getting back to normal as United won six games in a row in all competitions. But then in the New Year, they suffered 3 defeats in a row the first time since 2001 to Tottenham in where ended their ambitions in regaining the title and against Swansea and Sunderland in the FA Cup and The Capital One Cup. Moyes began to feel the pressure of the job as some fans wanted him gone and from his body language, he seemed lost, agitated and uncomfortable when United were struggling.

Hope That Lead To Disillusion And Despair


The January transfer window arrived and it was for United to strengthen their squad in order to turn the season around as it has been poor. The requisition of Juan Mata from Chelsea for £37m record singing was what Man Utd needed as they have been lacking in creativity and flair. People like me was bemused that Chelsea let a player go of his quality in where he was player of the season at his previous club for two seasons running. But I and the fans weren’t complaining. We were delighted of the signing and we hoped this can transformed our team. But it wasn’t the case and the team went backwards and the performances start to become worse. A performance that was really poor was against Olympiakos in the last 16 of the Champions League in a two legged tie. Everyone including myself said United should win this comfortably but it was the complete opposite. We lost 2-0 and it was a diabolical performance and one of the worst performances I have ever seen. There was no fight, motivation and flair. The players were lost, the staff were lost and David Moyes was questionable in his post-match analysis. He didn’t noticed that the media and fans alike that Man Utd weren’t organised and weren’t playing the united way. Even though Man Utd won the return leg 3-0, prior to that there was a new low at the club. Manchester Utd faced Liverpool at Old Trafford and it was arguable the biggest premier league match. It was a great opportunity for The Red Devils to show who they are but once again they fall flat as they lost 3-0 but the matter of the defeat was hard to take. Not only we lost to our rivals but the way we played was shocking. No desire, no motivation and I felt the players didn’t want to play for Moyes no more as players were questioning his tactics for a while and for that moment this was the beginning of the end for Moyes. His comments saying that Liverpool was the favourites going into the game didn’t go down well. It seemed that he had no hope for United and it showed greatly.

A Broken Relationship Led To Decision Making


Results got worse and performances were declining and declining as we lost to our rivals Man City 3-0 and lost 3-1 to Bayern Munich in the 2nd leg of the Champions League quarter-final. However, there was an opportunity of redemption after the Bayern game as we faced Everton in where it was an important game for Moyes as he was going back to Everton for the first time. He hoped for response from his players but once again they failed to deliver. A 2-0 defeat confirmed they can’t qualify for the Champions League for the first time since 1995 and for Moyes to say afterwards that his team were the better side was beyond belief. The fear factor of clubs playing against Manchester Utd has disappeared for a long time and it was worrying. Moyes suffered a broken relationship between the players, the fans but especially the board as the next day, there were strong reports from social media that David Moyes is on brink of losing his job. The club didn’t deny or confirm the reports but it was clear that a change was imminent. And then on 22nd April 2014, David Moyes was now the sacked one. It’s a coincidence that on that day last year Manchester Utd won the Premier League title. I was a bit surprised when the announcement was made as I was thinking Moyes is going to last for the whole season as he was given a six year contact but they acted as results have been unacceptable. And with that short statement the club made, it seemed to me that the club wasn’t that bothered with him no more.

Final Thoughts

Even though it was inventible that Moyes would be sacked, for me personally, I would have like him to be given more time. Managers should always get time in their job as it takes years for a project to come together. He could have successful in his second season as Brendan Rogers had a poor first season at Liverpool but now this season Liverpool are playing brilliantly and they could win a league title for the first time in nearly 24 years. However, if there’s an opportunity for a change, this was the time. His structure, direction and tactics were wrong and it weren’t right for the club. He tried to apply his methods in where he thought would get results but it wasn’t successful. He didn’t realise that the expectations of this club is completely different to his days at Everton. But the players should take the blame as well. They have been diabolical. The players have been uncreative, unadventurous and underperformed and that’s disappointing.

David Moyes leaves United after less than 10 Months with unwanted records. Records include in where Man Utd have lost to Everton, Liverpool and Man City home and away in one season in the Premier League for the first time, guaranteed to finished the season in the Premier League with a worst points tally, losing to a Greek side in the Champions League for the first time and a worst home record in 10 years. Although he could have been successful if he kept some of the backroom staff that knew the club and to help guide him but he decline but now he’s gone and people have put the blame on Six Alex for recommending him to the board but I don’t think it’s his fault. It was the board who chosen him and not Sir Alex.

His successor is Ryan Giggs as an interim manager until the end of the season. There’s been talk that the fans favourite should get the job on a permanent basis as he’s been at the club for over 20 years but he lacks manageable experience. Personally I would like the club to get Diego Simeone as he’s brilliant tactician. I also wouldn’t mind Jürgen Kloop as he’s a likable man who has terrific work ethic but the favourite to take the job seems to be Louis Van Gaal. But whoever takes over, they will need to spend big in the next transfer window which is massive for the club as this season has been beyond poor. I believe 5-6 new players should come in. If Manchester Utd has another unsuccessful transfer window, then I fear for the club. It could take years rather than months for the club to rebuild again.

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Honesty is the best policy or is it?


There’s a saying that honesty is the best policy and for people including myself I would agree on that but is it really the best policy? Why do I have some doubts in this saying? Well although it’s good to be honest and to speak your mind, it can lead you into trouble. It can make you lose your job, relationships to break down, get into trouble from the law and so on.

Social Media

As social media has been increasing for the past few years and it has become part of our lives in where people like me would like to tweet, share pictures on Instagram, post videos and write posts on Facebook. Social media has been great as you can interact with new people and reconnect with old people and use the features I have mentioned, however social network websites can damage relationships. Why because of what people have put up. Social media tends us to be more expressive and blunt of how we are feeling without thinking that we’re exposing ourselves. I have seen people post up information that is unnecessary, distasteful and sometimes racist.

For example, I constantly see people talking about their relationships with their partner and how they love him/her but also criticising their partner when problems occurs. They will say I can say what I want when I want and they are obliged to do as we have freedom of speech. But if you want your private life to be private, keep it low key instead of talking about your lives publicly as people will interfere in your business which will lead to friction.

Saying stuff you thought it’s harmless but others think differently wouldn’t go down well too. Although people may think to themselves “It’s no harm done. People are not going to be bothered of what I’ve put up.” But then hours later you hear people commenting on your post in where you put for example that girls should be slaves to men and people are negative towards it and then days later in public, people are gossiping towards you, you will start to regret it of what you have said. Even though you deleted your post, the damage is done and the perception of you from people will change and your reputation is in ruins. Unfortunately, I have written a post which wasn’t well received and it didn’t help my cause. It has made me aware of what information I should and shouldn’t put up.

That’s why sometimes you should just keep your mouth shut and stay silent as there will be some people out there who would use your words against you. Don’t say all of your personal stuff to your friends as the people you thought you can trust is sometimes the ones who are publicly telling your business.

Lying Is Risky

So you will be thinking if being honest gets me into trouble then I should do the opposite and lie? Yes and no. Yes you should lie in order to protect yourself and the people you care about for example if someone trying to hurt you and your family, someone is trying to mislead you or if someone is trying to take advantage of your goodwill. But don’t lie in where you told people that you have cancer, you didn’t steal any money or cheated on someone in where it has proven to be false.

It all depends on the situation in terms of what you should and shouldn’t lie about but whatever the situation, lying to someone will make you lose that trust with that person. They will feel distant and question your friendship/relationship with them. On the other hand, I hear people say if they don’t know the truth, then they will not get hurt. That could be right but how are you going to prevent the person from finding out? By lying. The truth will come out eventually. Secrets and lies are dangerous as they do get out of hand. Instead of your pride, tell the truth. The person may not be happy at first but as you told the truth, forgiveness may come into place.

Hearing The Truth Can Be Useful

Sometimes people are afraid to hear the truth from people as they can’t handle it but the truth is needed. It can help you know your faults, overcome them and make you a better person. If you made mistakes and you don’t know why yet people know and they don’t tell you, then you won’t know why people have rejected you. Some people don’t want to tell you so you can fail but receiving constrictive criticism from others can motivate you and help you grow to be the best you can be. In addition, you could inspire others when being honest about yourself regarding to your personal experience which could make them believe in themselves to be successful.

Honesty Is A Win Lose Situation


With this taken into account, the reality is that you can give some respect from people by being honest but you can also lose some respect from people by being honest. To summarise, honesty being the best policy is a win-lose situation. Some people are honest in order to guide others and to display a good nature whereas some people are honest in order to be spiteful and boost their ego. We live in selfish society in where people want to be outspoken just to get attention. I see people from social media to television in where have said stuff that are shocking but because they have received an amount of attention, they find this appealing so they continued to be controversial. It’s a shame that they do this just to help their self-esteem.

In my view, being honest has its benefits. It can you give inner peace and save you from guilt. You will become trustworthy, reliable and sustain close relationships from others. You will have control in your life when you are true to yourself. Also it takes guts to be honest depending on the situation as sometimes people like to keep their views to themselves in where it’s hurting them inside. However, don’t be too honest in where you have a point of view on things as may lead you into trouble. With more people using social media websites, people are becoming more exposed based on what they say. If you have an opinion in where you feel you need to be open about, then you are entitled to do so. I would do the same after all I can be a very honest person at times. Although you have to consider others and not your ego. You have to think carefully if your opinion is going to hurt others and whether is necessary. Your words and actions will define what people will think of you in a good way or a bad way and people will make a perception of you whether you have meet them or not.

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