Trending Perfection Celebrities

Intro

Hello everyone. This subject matter is something that has been in my mind for a while and I feel it’s time to talk. It’s something that I am going to be blunt so people may disagree. In life, we seek someone to inspire us, to motivate us and to help us be a better person. This can be from our families, or someone we know. However, there are people that we adore, look up to and want to be like them and those people are celebrities. It’s a growing trend that’s has been increasing for many years and it’s a trend that’s not going to decline. They come from a range of people musicians, movie stars, journalists, models and athletes.

Celebrities Are Dreamy

#celebrities #dreamy #goregous
#celebrities #dreamy #goregous

So why do we admire them? By listening to their music, seeing them in films, TV and watching sports but when we see them, we see them in a different light. We think they are super talented and for that moment, we want to know more about them. We want to know who they are and what makes them tick. We feel we have a connection towards them. For example you are listening to a musician’s song and you are drawn with their lyrics but also their singing ability. You find it incredible and memorising.

As the media shows these celebrities on a regular basis we are more fascinated by them and we feel they are different to any kind of human being. We portray them as perfect celebrities as they have received more recognition and with that they are more famous. We idolised them and we are very impressed of their achievements and we regard them as role models. We follow their style, their body image and believe in what they say. Celebrities these days can be very influential.

We Love celebrities So Much That We worshipped Them

An example of a celebrity who is influential is Beyoncé Knowles. She is admired by many people in the world especially young women. Last month she was listed on Time Magazine as one of 100 influential people in the world. Sheryl Sandberg a Facebook Executive comments how she makes an impact on women. She says “She raises her voice both on and off stage to urge women to be independent and lead.” She also says “Her secret: hard work, honesty and authenticity.“ Beyoncé’s performances in shows come with work ethic which is outstanding and young women want to follow her attributes, be like her and follow her lifestyle. People see her as an idol yet people have taken this to extreme measures. According to reports in America, organisers have created a church in Atlanta called The National Church Of Bey in where people can practice the religion “Beysim.” It is to believe they gather every Sunday to sing her songs just like sermons coming from the bible. They even have plans to build a temple in honour of Beyoncé. This could be false but I find this absolutely ridiculous that people want to worship Beyoncé. Yes she’s a very talented person but does she deserved to be worshipped absolutely not!

Beyonce leads Time’s 100 most influential people

A religion to worship Beyonce?

Commerical of The National Church Of Bey

Another example is Justin Bieber a singer but because he has strong fan base from young females they worship him. This is one of the reasons why the name beliebers was formed so they can follow him in social networking websites such as Twitter in where he was the most followed person in June last year with 40m. They love him so they will do anything to help him. In January last year #cutforbieber was a twitter trend in where fans self-harm themselves to stop Bieber from smoking weed. It was utterly disturbing as fans did this for him.

Cut for Bieber

The media should be blamed for this as they promote celebs like they should be treated like royalty because of how great they are. And with that, the more we like celebs, the more we want follow the trend of that particularly celebrity.

Expectations Within Relationships

Well live in a world in where we are looking for a superman/superwoman. They don’t exist but thanks to celebs we think they do exist and as a result, relationships fall apart because of high expectations. We are easily influenced by the media and what we see from celebrities’ relationships, we feel it’s normal for us to have it in our relationships. We also intrigued by celebrities many talents and we find them more attractive. Whatever we like from the celebrity, we want a potential partner to have those qualities. Although it can be difficult to find that in a person, some people are willing to wait for it. They are willing to find someone who looks like and dance like Chris Brown, sing like Adele or have the body of Trey Songz. They won’t even consider someone who doesn’t have those attributes as they’re obsessed with their favourite celebrities and that is appalling. They are going to be single for years if they look for someone that is unrealistic.

#classy#powercouple
#classy#powercouple

As I mentioned earlier, Beyoncé is a person who has many admirers who want to follow her lifestyle. She is married to rapper Jay-Z since 2008 and their marriage has been in the spotlight. They are listed as a power couple based on their music activity and as they are a power couple, people view their relationship and believe it’s perfect in the way they show their love for one another. Kim Kardashian, a popular celebrity is engaged to rapper Kanye West. Recently they done a photo shoot for Vogue in where they were photos of them and their child. The pictures look great but for people will look at this and say “This is lovely. They look so prefect together. I wish I can have a relationship like this.”

#vogue #kimye
#vogue #kimye

And then you get the trend “Relationships Like this”. When I see this trend, it makes me think what they have seen, they view it as a perfect relationship and those celebrity couples I’ve mention are examples. When a young woman sees this, they would feel a guy should treat them like royalty and I feel it puts us guys’ much pressure in relationships. Some women would be comparing their favourite celebrities relationships to their own. They will set high standards and if they feel their boyfriend is not fulfilling to their standards of their ideal celebrity relationship, then they will tell them to either step up or you’re dumped. You may think that’s not the case but I see in social media in where girls upload a picture after picture of Beyoncé and Jay- Z’s performance at the Grammys and talked about how this is real love and they wished a guy can show all this affection.

#love #performance #grammys
#love #performance #grammys

It’s alarming for guys as what we do may not be enough for the ladies. However, girls come in for tremendous pressure from guys as they want a girl not only to have a good figure but to have big boobs, be supportive, be good in bed and to be attractive 24/7.

#verybeautiful
#verybeautiful #stunning

Michelle Keegan is someone who’s very beautiful but girls will feel self-conscious because of how she looks and as she’s an ideal woman for some guys, they feel pressured to look like her in order to receive attention from guys. The magazines don’t help either as you see celebs looking glamorous. Young girls today are in close scrutiny thanks to the media as to be socially accepted you have to look perfect. I remember years back when Rihanna dyed her hair red and it became a phenomenal as loads of girls were following her trend but now she’s a dresses up like a slut but as she liked by young girls they follow her dress sense too and it’s a shame.

Celebrities Are Normal Just Like Us

To round off, we love celebrities because of what do they do and we find it impressive. We follow them so they can part of our lives and to be associated with them in terms in how we live our lifestyle. We are inspired to be like them but also we drawn to them which can be obsessive as it’s like a fashion trend. We analyse celebs relationships in where it influences ours as we desire the perfect relationship but we shouldn’t compare our relationships to theirs as they have complete different lifestyles than ours. We should make our expectations realistic when meeting a potential partner.

#stylish #respectable
#stylish #respectable

What really annoys me is when people look at a celebrity and say that he/she is perfect. THEY ARE NOT PERFECT!! I see people saying this on social media and I am thinking why are you saying this? I believe they are saying this based on looks alone but when you say they are perfect, you are implying that everything about them is perfect in terms of their personality and the way they carried themselves. It’s like they have no faults whatsoever but they all have faults. They haven’t been to a surgeon in where they have been injected to have superhuman abilities. Yes they have amazing talents that we would like to have but they are normal human beings just like us who make mistakes. Chris Brown and Justin Bieber are examples who have made mistakes as they have got into trouble with the law yet fans still call them perfect in every way and defend them for their wrongdoing. That is utter nonsense.

If people want to mention someone who’s perfect then there’s one person who love us unconditionally, who died for our sins so we can have a better life and that person name is Jesus Christ. He deserves all the glory and all the praise. However, there are people who are not religious and be thinking there’s no God and if there is a God why is he letting all these bad things happening? Well that’s a debate for another time maybe…..

We shouldn’t brand celebs as royalties as we haven’t met them in real life but as the media can be so influential, we see them in a different light. Will this trend of idolising celebs decrease? Very unlikely. I believe more people are going to idolise celebrities as it’s a fashion trend. I believe the media should stop portraying celebrities as perfect. It would make life a lot of easier and it stop us from trying  or looking for something that is non-existent a perfect person.

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David Moyes: From The Chosen One to The Sacked One

New Era

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It was always going to be a difficult job for David Moyes to take over from manager Sir Alex Ferguson at Manchester Utd in where he produced a major transformation of the club within the 26 years he was there. He won 38 trophies which included 13 Premier League titles and 2 Champions League titles in his campaign and he’s regarded to be one of the best or arguably the best manager of all the time. His work ethic, determination and the hunger for success was remarkable and forever will be a legend with the united faithful.

Moyes was regarded as the chosen one as Sir Alex recommended him to the board in where he was appointed quickly when Ferguson announced his retirement. It seems to be as a safe choice for the board to make as Ferguson felt Moyes has similar attributes and personality as him and also he is Scottish. It was a start of a new era as Moyes was handed a six year contract which was a statement from the club that they want the same longevity and stability as they had with Sir Alex. However, people questioned the appointment. Despite 11 years of being at Everton in when Moyes was successful in his job, he didn’t guide them to win a trophy. He didn’t have the experience in working for a big club and he lacked european experience although he did guided Everton to qualifying rounds of the Champions League. Despite questions of his credibility, Moyes was given the opportunity and it seems to be working as he had a great start in the first Premier League as Man Utd Manager as they won 4-1 against Swansea.

A Disastrous Transfer Window

When you at a big club, you need to spend well in the transfer window in order to outgun your rivals. Manchester Utd had been successful in doing this but for this summer window, it didn’t happen. Moyes tried to sign star players like Fabregas and Thiago from Barcelona but it failed as Fabregas wanted to stay and Thiago went to Bayern Munich. Moyes made an effort to sign his previous players from Everton, Baines and Felliani for a joint bid of £30m but Everton rejected and calling it derisory. At the end, Fellinai joined at the club at deadline day with a fee of £27.5m but eyebrows were raised as Felliani had a clause in his contract that he can leave for £23.5m but that ended in July. United could have got Felliani for a lower fee but they end up spending more and as they got him in the last day of the transfer window was it really the player they wanted? There were potential targets to get Ander Herrera and Fabio Conceratro from Athletic Bilbao and Real Madrid but it wasn’t successful either. It was a disastrous transfer window and questions need to be asked in whether Moyes had the support from the club to pursue his targets or whether Executive Vice chairman Ed Woodward who replaced David Gill (A huge loss for United) didn’t fulfil his duties in the transfer window. It was an embarrassment for the club in where they need to be better in the next summer transfer window.

Missed Opportunities = Misfortunes

The lack of opportunities of the transfer window came back to haunt the club as they suffered back to back Premier Leagues defeats to their local rivals Manchester City in where they lost 4-1 and 2-1 to West Brom in September. There wasn’t a major crisis but the atmosphere at the club seems bleak. In December, they lost suffered back to back defeats again but this time at home in where they lost 1-0 to Everton and Newcastle. It was the first time since 2001/02 season in where they lost 2 games in a row at Old Trafford. At this moment, questions were being asked in whether Moyes is the right man for this job and if he can build up the team. But then there was a period in where things were getting back to normal as United won six games in a row in all competitions. But then in the New Year, they suffered 3 defeats in a row the first time since 2001 to Tottenham in where ended their ambitions in regaining the title and against Swansea and Sunderland in the FA Cup and The Capital One Cup. Moyes began to feel the pressure of the job as some fans wanted him gone and from his body language, he seemed lost, agitated and uncomfortable when United were struggling.

Hope That Lead To Disillusion And Despair

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The January transfer window arrived and it was for United to strengthen their squad in order to turn the season around as it has been poor. The requisition of Juan Mata from Chelsea for £37m record singing was what Man Utd needed as they have been lacking in creativity and flair. People like me was bemused that Chelsea let a player go of his quality in where he was player of the season at his previous club for two seasons running. But I and the fans weren’t complaining. We were delighted of the signing and we hoped this can transformed our team. But it wasn’t the case and the team went backwards and the performances start to become worse. A performance that was really poor was against Olympiakos in the last 16 of the Champions League in a two legged tie. Everyone including myself said United should win this comfortably but it was the complete opposite. We lost 2-0 and it was a diabolical performance and one of the worst performances I have ever seen. There was no fight, motivation and flair. The players were lost, the staff were lost and David Moyes was questionable in his post-match analysis. He didn’t noticed that the media and fans alike that Man Utd weren’t organised and weren’t playing the united way. Even though Man Utd won the return leg 3-0, prior to that there was a new low at the club. Manchester Utd faced Liverpool at Old Trafford and it was arguable the biggest premier league match. It was a great opportunity for The Red Devils to show who they are but once again they fall flat as they lost 3-0 but the matter of the defeat was hard to take. Not only we lost to our rivals but the way we played was shocking. No desire, no motivation and I felt the players didn’t want to play for Moyes no more as players were questioning his tactics for a while and for that moment this was the beginning of the end for Moyes. His comments saying that Liverpool was the favourites going into the game didn’t go down well. It seemed that he had no hope for United and it showed greatly.

A Broken Relationship Led To Decision Making

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Results got worse and performances were declining and declining as we lost to our rivals Man City 3-0 and lost 3-1 to Bayern Munich in the 2nd leg of the Champions League quarter-final. However, there was an opportunity of redemption after the Bayern game as we faced Everton in where it was an important game for Moyes as he was going back to Everton for the first time. He hoped for response from his players but once again they failed to deliver. A 2-0 defeat confirmed they can’t qualify for the Champions League for the first time since 1995 and for Moyes to say afterwards that his team were the better side was beyond belief. The fear factor of clubs playing against Manchester Utd has disappeared for a long time and it was worrying. Moyes suffered a broken relationship between the players, the fans but especially the board as the next day, there were strong reports from social media that David Moyes is on brink of losing his job. The club didn’t deny or confirm the reports but it was clear that a change was imminent. And then on 22nd April 2014, David Moyes was now the sacked one. It’s a coincidence that on that day last year Manchester Utd won the Premier League title. I was a bit surprised when the announcement was made as I was thinking Moyes is going to last for the whole season as he was given a six year contact but they acted as results have been unacceptable. And with that short statement the club made, it seemed to me that the club wasn’t that bothered with him no more.

Final Thoughts

Even though it was inventible that Moyes would be sacked, for me personally, I would have like him to be given more time. Managers should always get time in their job as it takes years for a project to come together. He could have successful in his second season as Brendan Rogers had a poor first season at Liverpool but now this season Liverpool are playing brilliantly and they could win a league title for the first time in nearly 24 years. However, if there’s an opportunity for a change, this was the time. His structure, direction and tactics were wrong and it weren’t right for the club. He tried to apply his methods in where he thought would get results but it wasn’t successful. He didn’t realise that the expectations of this club is completely different to his days at Everton. But the players should take the blame as well. They have been diabolical. The players have been uncreative, unadventurous and underperformed and that’s disappointing.

David Moyes leaves United after less than 10 Months with unwanted records. Records include in where Man Utd have lost to Everton, Liverpool and Man City home and away in one season in the Premier League for the first time, guaranteed to finished the season in the Premier League with a worst points tally, losing to a Greek side in the Champions League for the first time and a worst home record in 10 years. Although he could have been successful if he kept some of the backroom staff that knew the club and to help guide him but he decline but now he’s gone and people have put the blame on Six Alex for recommending him to the board but I don’t think it’s his fault. It was the board who chosen him and not Sir Alex.

His successor is Ryan Giggs as an interim manager until the end of the season. There’s been talk that the fans favourite should get the job on a permanent basis as he’s been at the club for over 20 years but he lacks manageable experience. Personally I would like the club to get Diego Simeone as he’s brilliant tactician. I also wouldn’t mind Jürgen Kloop as he’s a likable man who has terrific work ethic but the favourite to take the job seems to be Louis Van Gaal. But whoever takes over, they will need to spend big in the next transfer window which is massive for the club as this season has been beyond poor. I believe 5-6 new players should come in. If Manchester Utd has another unsuccessful transfer window, then I fear for the club. It could take years rather than months for the club to rebuild again.

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Honesty is the best policy or is it?

Intro

There’s a saying that honesty is the best policy and for people including myself I would agree on that but is it really the best policy? Why do I have some doubts in this saying? Well although it’s good to be honest and to speak your mind, it can lead you into trouble. It can make you lose your job, relationships to break down, get into trouble from the law and so on.

Social Media

As social media has been increasing for the past few years and it has become part of our lives in where people like me would like to tweet, share pictures on Instagram, post videos and write posts on Facebook. Social media has been great as you can interact with new people and reconnect with old people and use the features I have mentioned, however social network websites can damage relationships. Why because of what people have put up. Social media tends us to be more expressive and blunt of how we are feeling without thinking that we’re exposing ourselves. I have seen people post up information that is unnecessary, distasteful and sometimes racist.

For example, I constantly see people talking about their relationships with their partner and how they love him/her but also criticising their partner when problems occurs. They will say I can say what I want when I want and they are obliged to do as we have freedom of speech. But if you want your private life to be private, keep it low key instead of talking about your lives publicly as people will interfere in your business which will lead to friction.

Saying stuff you thought it’s harmless but others think differently wouldn’t go down well too. Although people may think to themselves “It’s no harm done. People are not going to be bothered of what I’ve put up.” But then hours later you hear people commenting on your post in where you put for example that girls should be slaves to men and people are negative towards it and then days later in public, people are gossiping towards you, you will start to regret it of what you have said. Even though you deleted your post, the damage is done and the perception of you from people will change and your reputation is in ruins. Unfortunately, I have written a post which wasn’t well received and it didn’t help my cause. It has made me aware of what information I should and shouldn’t put up.

That’s why sometimes you should just keep your mouth shut and stay silent as there will be some people out there who would use your words against you. Don’t say all of your personal stuff to your friends as the people you thought you can trust is sometimes the ones who are publicly telling your business.

Lying Is Risky

So you will be thinking if being honest gets me into trouble then I should do the opposite and lie? Yes and no. Yes you should lie in order to protect yourself and the people you care about for example if someone trying to hurt you and your family, someone is trying to mislead you or if someone is trying to take advantage of your goodwill. But don’t lie in where you told people that you have cancer, you didn’t steal any money or cheated on someone in where it has proven to be false.

It all depends on the situation in terms of what you should and shouldn’t lie about but whatever the situation, lying to someone will make you lose that trust with that person. They will feel distant and question your friendship/relationship with them. On the other hand, I hear people say if they don’t know the truth, then they will not get hurt. That could be right but how are you going to prevent the person from finding out? By lying. The truth will come out eventually. Secrets and lies are dangerous as they do get out of hand. Instead of your pride, tell the truth. The person may not be happy at first but as you told the truth, forgiveness may come into place.

Hearing The Truth Can Be Useful

Sometimes people are afraid to hear the truth from people as they can’t handle it but the truth is needed. It can help you know your faults, overcome them and make you a better person. If you made mistakes and you don’t know why yet people know and they don’t tell you, then you won’t know why people have rejected you. Some people don’t want to tell you so you can fail but receiving constrictive criticism from others can motivate you and help you grow to be the best you can be. In addition, you could inspire others when being honest about yourself regarding to your personal experience which could make them believe in themselves to be successful.

Honesty Is A Win Lose Situation

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With this taken into account, the reality is that you can give some respect from people by being honest but you can also lose some respect from people by being honest. To summarise, honesty being the best policy is a win-lose situation. Some people are honest in order to guide others and to display a good nature whereas some people are honest in order to be spiteful and boost their ego. We live in selfish society in where people want to be outspoken just to get attention. I see people from social media to television in where have said stuff that are shocking but because they have received an amount of attention, they find this appealing so they continued to be controversial. It’s a shame that they do this just to help their self-esteem.

In my view, being honest has its benefits. It can you give inner peace and save you from guilt. You will become trustworthy, reliable and sustain close relationships from others. You will have control in your life when you are true to yourself. Also it takes guts to be honest depending on the situation as sometimes people like to keep their views to themselves in where it’s hurting them inside. However, don’t be too honest in where you have a point of view on things as may lead you into trouble. With more people using social media websites, people are becoming more exposed based on what they say. If you have an opinion in where you feel you need to be open about, then you are entitled to do so. I would do the same after all I can be a very honest person at times. Although you have to consider others and not your ego. You have to think carefully if your opinion is going to hurt others and whether is necessary. Your words and actions will define what people will think of you in a good way or a bad way and people will make a perception of you whether you have meet them or not.

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